Mary Topolinski
Parent Mentor-Coach
Professional Life Coach
Trauma-Informed Coach
Board Certified Mental Health Coach


A Gift for You
Super Simple Self-Care Strategies
Mark off an hour of “white space” on your calendar - do nothing productive!
Breathe! (Use apps like Calm or Breathwork)
Stay grounded by feeling the weight of your body on the chair or floor
Reframe negative thoughts: Example "I can’t do this” becomes “I can do the next right thing”
Post something inspirational in your car, by your sink, at your desk
Wear something that makes you feel good
Pour something warm (or cold) to drink and sit quietly until it’s done
Play worship music
Call an old friend, laugh about old times
Hug someone (and linger a little longer!)
Meditate on scripture, memorize a verse or passage
Plant a butterfly garden
Watch the sunset
Eat a piece of fresh fruit
Burn a lovely candle
Keep a journal
Do your hair
Ask for what you need
Walk barefoot in the grass
Jump in a pile of leaves
Make a snow angel
Do a craft you love but haven’t done in a while
Learn a new craft
Put on hand lotion
Dab on some perfume
Create a spot just for you (corner of a room, desk area, kitchen windowsill, etc)
Write a poem to express your feelings
Turn off all screens an hour before bed
Recall good memories with your loved one
Drink half your body weight in ounces of water daily
Practice gratitude - write down 3-5 things every day, morning and night
Do something playful (hopscotch, jump rope, swing, skip, somersault)
Plan a dream vacation in your mind, or explore it online
Leave the past in the past
Stretch your muscles
Watch the sunrise
Call a friend to vent
Put on makeup
Bird watch
Sit in a sunny window and soak up the rays
Flip through a photo album or happy pics on your phone
Start a topical bible reading plan on YouVersion Bible App
Stop feeling guilty for things you’ve already confessed
Listen to an uplifting podcast
Roll a tennis ball under your feet
Release your concerns to God
Walk around the block
Ask a safe friend to pray for you
Doodle or watercolor paint (I love andrea.nelson.art on Instagram)
Weed the garden
Snuggle with your pet
Write a song of lament
Plant something
Declutter a drawer or shelf
Sing a song of thanks and praise to Jesus
Forgive someone
Forgive yourself
Do a 10 minute free yoga workout on YouTube
Recognize and acknowledge all you’ve handled, been through, and overcome
Find a support group to join
Send an encouraging text or note to someone
Try Prayer Journaling (https://lifemodelworks.org/wp-content/uploads/2018/08/Joyful-Journey-Questions.pdf)
Recall a beautiful memory in all five senses
Fast from your cell phone for a period of time
Fill in a coloring book with crayons (or colored pencils or markers)
Write your concerns on notecards and leave them in your God Box
Close your eyes and intentionally listen for five distinct sounds
Try the James Method of bible study. Visit www.thejamesmethod.com
Say no. (”No” is a complete sentence!)
Listen to your favorite comedian
Stop and thank the Lord for your blessings
Halt a bad habit. Replace it with a good habit
Make a Vision Board privately on Pinterest
Set and hold a healthy boundary
Go for a long bike ride
Plant an herb garden
Wear sunscreen
Turn off the news
Pray for yourself
Go to church
Breathe
Smile!
Choose one or two to focus on this week. Refer to this list often and add things that would fill you up or help ease your suffering. Any change, no matter how small, is a big win!
“I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
Psalm 139:14